Elizabeth's Story

A lot of you know what Dan and I have been through the last week and a half.... a lot of you know we have gone through something, but not sure what. I wanted to wait to write this until I felt strong enough too. As I am sitting here fighting back tears, I know this is always going to be difficult, but want to share our story. I will be sharing a condensed version, as if I wrote out everything, I don't think I could handle that right now.

As many of you know, Dan and I had our first ultrasound scheduled for last Monday, Jan 11. I was anxious, as always, in fear that we would find out something horrible. Well, my worst fear came true. On Monday night, we discovered our little girl had fatal abnormalities that would not allow for her to survive outside of my supporting her. She may even pass away while still living in me. Dan and I had a lot of decisions and obstacles that we were going to have to go through together in the next week.

When I first found out about our little girl, of course I was devastated. I wanted her out. It couldn't happen soon enough. I wanted to be knocked out and just have it over with. I couldn't imagine going through labor only to deliver our baby who will not survive. I was so scared. What was goin to happen.

On Tuesday we went into a perinatal specialist right at United Hospital. When I got in, they had to do another ultrasound. At the time I was thinking "are you kidding me?" I had to sit through another ultrasound knowing my baby was not going to live? I sat and cried during the entire thing. The ultrasound tech was fantastic, and understood how hard it was for me to go through it. She did it as quickly as she could. Once she was finished, the Dr. came in to discuss the results. He basically reiterated what we had already been told. Our little girl was not going to survive. We had to make some decisions on how we were going to handle it.

We met with a Genetic Counselor that same day to discuss our situation. Dan and I decided being induced into labor would be the best for us, looking out for our values, morals, and what would be best for me and my health, as well as Elizabeth. Carrying Elizabeth longer could have posed risks for me as well as her.

I was so scared. How was I going to have the strength to go through labor, and deliver our baby, knowing she would not survive? Labor is difficult knowing you have a beautiful baby to look forward to. How can I possibly be strong enough to go through labor, and know my poor little girl would not live?

Fast forward another Dr appt on Thursday and into Friday. Dan and I checked into United on Friday morning at 7:30. As we were walking to our hospital room, i started crying. stopped. And told Dan I couldn't do this. He reassured me we can do it, and we continued walking to meet our nurse, Lori. She walked us to our room, and got me all ready for wht was about to happen. At this point, I was so scared not only for the labor, but this was the first time I had ever been in the hospital. Lori got my port ready for an IV if I was going to need that later, went over our birth plan with us, and got the medicine put in to being my labor. She told me that I may need 3-4 doses before it begins to work, and they don't give me another dose for 6hrs. Needless to say, it was going to be along day.

Family was finally let into our room, and they were really shook up. My goal was to stay strong in front of them. I think I did a really good job of this.

I am going to fast forward to when my labor began. Finally around 9-10pm, contractions began. i was given some medication to ease the pain... but of course I was going to experience back labor as well. Finally around 11 i couldn't stand the pain, and knew that I had an epidural as an option. I didn't want it, but I knew when I got to the point of when I was willing to put my fears aside to ease the pain, that meant I needed it. Right before the dr came in for that, my water broke. This is when I had my first break down. I started crying uncontrollably, so afraid. I thought that was it. She was going to be here and we were really going to do this. Unfortunatly I will still only 1 cm, so it was going to be a while.

So I got the epidural, I was now getting pitocin, and hopefully progressing. Since i got the epidural, I was able to get some rest from about 2am-6am. Let's fast forward again, and 6:30 am, I tell the doctor I think I am ready. Sure enough, baby Elizabeth is ready to be born. She was born at 6:52 am, 8.5 oz, 8.5 in. She was the most precious, fragile, little girl. Her hands and feet were so perfect. She even had long nails already. She was beautiful. We held her, we cried, family came in to meet her, they held her, and cried. Elizabeth was baptized. Family said their goodbyes, and Dan and I were left alone with our little girl. We held her little hand around our finger, kissed those beautiful little feet, and said our goodbyes to our beautiful baby girl.

I know we have along road ahead. I can't even begin to tell you how much love I have in my hearth for Elizabeth, and my future children. I am so scared to be pregnant again, but at the same time, so badly want a healthy little baby. Right now, it is really hard to see everyone so happy with their families... when I sign on to facebook especially, I am constantly reminded. I look forward to those sleepless nights, diaper changes, late night feedings. If you have a healthy baby, please, do not complain about those moments. Know how BLESSED you are that you have those moments, and cherish them. I would give anything to have that with my Elizabeth. I cannot wait until Dan and i get to experience that with our next child.

In memory of our little Elizabeth. January 16, 2010.

Psalm 121.

HUNGER!!

Can I BE any more hungry?

That was just a Chandler way of stating the fact that I am constantly hungry! All my close friends know that I somehow bring a Friends episode into many conversations.... :)
I have no snacks at school. I think I am going to head out from here and pick some stuff up so I can have it in my desk! I feel bad though eating in front of the kids... but hopefully they understand!

I can't wait for Monday. Seriously. I don't know how I am going to get any sleep on Sunday. Speaking of sleep, I had the 2nd best night sleep last night! I woke up when Dan came up to bed at like 11:30, but did not wake up once! I didn't wake up until my crow alarm went off on my phone, and I was so out of it I didn't realize what day it was! I was so bummed when I realized it was only Tuesday, but happy about the great night sleep.

Skin. Let me just say I hate mine right now. Seriously.... pregnancy glow my butt!! Who gets that? Not this lady! I get zit, after zit... and I feel so gross. I can't take anything for it either since I am pregnant. I just keep trying to tell myself it is worth it!

ALSO I am pretty sure I felt the baby move last night for sure for the first time! It felt like lots of little bubbles moving like a stream in my tummy... and it went on for a while! It was so cool.

Anyway.... I am heading out here, and gonna go get some food! Yay! Not looking forward to starting the cold car. Maybe next year's Christmas present??.... Electric car starter!

Murphy Christmas Day!

Hello all! I am just sitting on the couch cuddling with the pups... being lazy. I have one more day of this before I go back to reality... waiting then for our next break... Spring Break! I am SO looking forward to Castle being new episodes beginning on Monday, and the new season of The Bachelor! My Monday's will have a purpose now again :)

We have our Murphy Christmas today over at my Aunt and Uncle's. I wish we all got together more often than we do.... we have a big family and many of my cousins are married and have kids so it gets difficult to get us all together. I always look forward to seeing the fam!

So now that the holidays have just about come and gone... the dreadful "un-decorating" begins. I hate taking down Christmas decorations.... not only because it takes time, but I love having the Christmas tree up!

Well, almost a week from finding out if Baby Babich is a girl or boy! I am so glad our appt is early in the morning, as I would have probably not been able to concentrate on anything that day. More importantly, I really hope we see a healthy, active baby on the 11th. I think it will be so amazing to finally be able to see him or her!

Hope you all enjoy the rest of your weekend... and stay warm!

Belly Pic!

12 days until we find out if it is a boy or girl! Happy New Year everyone!

17 Weeks Today!

Hope everyone had a great Christmas! Dan and I did. We went to church on Christmas Eve... I bought a cute red pregnancy dress to wear. Then headed to my grandmas for the evening. It was so nice to realx and eat good food with family. We came home, relaxed for a bit, and headed to bed. It was hard to believe that next year at Christmas we will have a 6 month old baby! grandma and grandpa got Baby Babich some things already for Christmas! Baby is already being spoiled!!

Christmas Day, we woke up and exchanged gifts, and watched A Christmas Story. Dan and I have started our own tradition of watching that movie every year, as well as going skating. Unfortuantly we didn't go skating this year because of the weather. We then went to my parents for brunch and gift opening. It started off a little rocky and emotional for me... I have been a mess lately with emotions.... but it ended up being ok. After hanging out at my parents, we went to Dan's aunt and uncle's for the afternoon for a great dinner and to see family. We had a roast beef dinner... but the highlight for me was the cheesey potatoes!

The day after Christmas, I had to go out and buy a new phone, because long story short... I somehow lost mine. Frustrating, but at least I had Christmas money to spend on it. We then made our way to Dan's mom's to open gifts since Dan's brother Chris was in Eveleth for Christmas. Suzie got us some mittens for the baby that are so cute from Greece! We weren't even pregnant then but she was planning ahead :) We also got our stroller/ car seat combo that we wanted from Suzie, Nick, and Steve! That was so fun!

Now today, I had my appt! I was pretty anxious to go, because I wanted to hear the heartbeat! It is so reassuring to hear, and know YES, there really is a baby in there! It was 146 bpm today, so it is lower! I measured on track as well... and I got to schedule our ultrasound! January 11 at 7:30am is the big day! 2 weeks from today, I can't wit to see our little one in action!

That is it for now... I will have Dan take another belly pic tonight, although not much has changed I don't think in the last week....

Here is a pic of the stroller/car seat combo we got!

Pictures and AMAZING Dinner

So Dan got a bonus at work today... yay! Went right into savings to make up for a paycheck I will miss this fall. BUT, he did splurge and buy a couple of really nice cut ribeye steaks. I can't tell you the last time I had a good steak for dinner... it has been a long time. He made them on the grill, along with homemade mashed potatoes... and crescent rolls. Kels, as Yo Gabba Gabba would say... There's a Party in my Tummy! So Yummy! So Yummy!

The dinner was so good... Shannon you got another post. On top of that I have the pics I promised. 2 days to go until break!

16 weeks!

Well it is Sunday night, so I am basically 16 weeks... This weekend didn't start off too great. i didn't have the greatest day Friday, but I don't really need to get into that. Thankfully, Amy came to the rescue and let me veg at her house! I got to visit with her Scott, and Brooke! It was much needed... especially since Dan was gone, again. Saturday I went to lunch with Amy and Sara. I was extremely disapointed with my food. I always order Pad Thai, mild... and i think they served it medium since Katie ordered the same thing, but medium. If you have never had Thai.... when they put spices on their food... they don't mess around! I wasn't able to enjoy it because it was soo hot! I then went to my rents house to do Faith's hair for Mistletoe. I will post pics, I am just lazy and don't want to hook the camera up to the comp right now. I drove her and her group around, she was so cute! While they ate, Garon and I ate dinner at Joseph's. It was so nice to catch up with her, during Wild season, she gets super busy!

This week I am looking forward to only working 3 days, however, wish I had the day off. i sit here on a Sunday night, not looking forward to another work week beginning.

Pregnancy wise... I have had a lot of weird pains this weekend. For one, my back/ hips are already killing me. I have a mild case of scoliosis, and have always had back problems... so I have a feeling this will make for a rough pregnancy, being I am 4 months and already having issues. Second, I have been having weird pulling pains in areas other than my typical round ligament places. I am chalking it to stretching/ growing... and hope that is what it is from. Other than that... not much has changed. I just can't wait for that ultrasound appt.

Well, in case I don't post before hand... hope every one has a wonderful Christmas!